Just as impurities should be removed from the original metals during the process of making an alloy to increase the strength and durability of the alloy (the new metal), our impurities should be cleansed and removed before He melts our hearts into one new heart through marriage.
If our hearts are full of impurities, then how can we ever hope for our new heart to be strong. These impurities will cause our new heart to be brittle, weak, and easily damaged requiring constant attention and surgical repair.
Sweet Lord, we have neglected the need to seek cleansing and purification through reflection, prayer, fasting and confession before the many celebrations of our lives, but most of all before our marriages. We have turned the time of engagement and preparation into yet another party rather a time of reflection, prayer and a time to seek You. Please forgive us and help us seek the ancient paths, where the good way lies.
Thus says the Lord: Stand at the crossroads, and look, and ask for the ancient paths, where the good way lies; and walk in it, and find rest for your souls.